Obsessive Compulsive (OC) MomMa

My middle name is OC I forgot to tell. Working Nanay plus being OC equates paranoia. You see, I’m out of the house more than half of the ideal waking time [to do precise math its around 13 hours a day - 8 hours in the office, 1 hour lunch break, 4 hours on the road back and forth (that long? You can blame it to our shuttle bus driver. Not that he drives slow, the opposite actually, he’s just a loner, he wants to be alone on the road, imagine we leave at 0515 and we’re in the office at 0545 when our official office time starts at 0800 and we can’t do anything to protest because, sorry different story)], which only means I’m not there to look after mi bebe during day time. Some say I’m lucky my retired Mama is there to supervise mi bebe’s yaya. At the back of my mind, I say not really. Although a day is not enough to give credit to Mother for taking care of precious mi bebe, the same length of time is as not enough to vent my issues with her. Let’s not talk about the positive aspect, it’s already given, she’s the grandmamma, the love, care and affection cannot be questioned. I will just name few of my rants:

1) She is a spoiler, well most, if not all, grandparents are. So whatever mi bebe wants she gets it through her Lola. If she wants the remote control to be her teether, she can have it. If she wants to walk barefooted, so be it. I bet they’re sharing spoon too if I'm not on the look. Such mortal sins to us OCs you know.

2) She’s not OC like me. You can just imagine how I argue with her every time I see the bottle is left uncovered, the cloth diaper is on the floor and forgotten, when she carries mi bebe without disinfecting with alcohol and the like. Simple things that only OC nanay will dare create an argument with. Which lead me to:

3) I can never win. What can I do, I’m still the daughter.

My OC remedy is to prepare everything ahead. When I say everything, I mean everything - from her toiletries, to her dress for the day, to her diapers, to her vitamins and most especially her milk. Only I (or mi esposo) can touch and scoop the milk from the can, you know for sanitary purposes. Daily, either of us will pre-scoop her milk and place it in a milk dispenser, we also prepare the water for milk beforehand by putting the right amount of water on every feeding bottle. All they have to do is to mix together and shake. I even required them to fill-up the chart I made to monitor her diaper changes and milk intakes (and I verify it mind you). I also check on everything as I arrive home. I ask her yaya to wash every washable toy, the water basin she uses and the bottle dryer every day.

But one day, mi esposo lectured me about trust. He told me, “learn to trust people around our bebe” they will not mean and will never cause harm. He even told me that a little germ will even help develop natural antibodies to our bebe’s immune system. Being a submissive wife that I am, I dutifully took his advice by heart. So from then on, I do not impose on the chart thingy anymore. Life goes on as usual. =)

The Simpsons

The Simpson Family as they first appeared in The Tracey Ullman Show



The Simpsons is the longest-running animated television series in the US today, its Guinness Book of World Record certified. The show is an animated-satire, spoofing the present state of the (US) society - may it be political, religious and even showbiz – as depicted in the lifestyle of a typical family, who lived in a town called “Springfield”. Homer, Marge, Bart, Lisa, and Maggie simply poke fun at everything and anything. With their subversive humor and wit, the family never fails to leave a valuable lesson at every episode. Oh well, who doesn't know The Simpsons anyway? I practically grew-up loving this cartoon. And I love it more that the characters do not physically age and still appear just as they did, it gives me nostalgic effect.

Homer, Marge, Lisa, Maggie and Bart stars in thier own animated show

Last weekend, as mi esposo was browsing the tube for a show to watch, he came across with the Simpsons. As a fan, I demanded (understatement actually) that we stay-tuned. And to my surprise, even mi bebe liked it. Although I’m not sure whether she understood, at least she paid attention. As a Nanay, the Simpsons is one of the shows I would allow mi bebe to watch (at her age, with supervision ofcourse). I’m confident that although the Simpson family is dysfunctional, many episodes examine their relationships with one another and they often shown to care with each other. Moral family values still rules.

Before I forget, this morning flag raising's host was very generous to give away free donuts to all. Lucky me, donut is one of my favorite snacks. I think I can live with donut overload just like Homer Simpson. 

Mother's Day Weekend

Mother’s Day in the Philippines and in most of the world is celebrated annually on the 2^nd Sunday of May. It is a day where in the sacrifices of mothers are honored and their influence to the society is celebrated. Mother’s day Grinch would tell you that it is only a fabrication of enterprising minds. It is just a marketing strategy to promote whatever it is that they want to sell. I am a mother, but yes I agree with the Grinch. I don’t believe a single day would be enough to honor mothers with gift and pampering. As a working mother like me, just seeing mi bebe cries as I leave for work is a sacrifice on its own, that’s why that glow on her face when she sees me home is my most precious gift of the day. Don’t get me wrong (esp. mi esposo), I’m still not the Grinch, I would still want to receive material gifts. lol 

This year, Mother's Day falls on the 13th of May. Why do I talk about this on the 4th week of Jan.? Too early you think, not really. Because it’s the weekend! I’m going to be a full time Nanay for the succeeding days and I’m glad, I’m happy, I’m gay. It’s more tiring than by just sitting in front of my office's PC, I tell you, but I love it all the more. Ehem, paging mi esposo, I will be delighted if you have a “mother’s day gift” for me tomorrow. (wink)

Happy mother’s day to all working moms! Let's enjoy our kiddos this weekend.

Facebook Timeline

Seen below is my current profile picture on Facebook. This was taken during my MIL’s Christmas treat in Tagaytay last year.

my kids! =)

I heard from the news that Facebook is about to enforce the Timeline Setting to all its active social networkers. It is still optional until now, but on Monday, Timeline is going to be mandatory - read: the profile page we know and love will be totally revamped - whether we like it or not. Via the official Facebook blog, the site announced, “Last year we introduced timeline, a new kind of profile that lets you highlight the photos, posts and life events that help you tell your story. Over the next few weeks, everyone will get timeline. When you get timeline, you'll have 7 days to preview what's there now. This gives you a chance to add or hide whatever you want before anyone else sees it”.

People over the web make fuss about this, they say it exposes their entire networking history. They say, it reincarnates off pictures and posts that they might have wanted to forget. If you ask me, I also dislike Timeline, but that is just because I don’t like how it looks, to quote my friend, “it looks so Friendster-ish”, I do not like the photos screaming at your face and your whereabout is so stalker-friendly (I read that photo and albums can now be tagged with locations). Nice thing is that, Timeline comes with “hide” button. Which btw annoys me as well, I just don’t get why people post something that they really would not want to be seen. Users should be responsible with everything they post over these sites, once you post something, face it, it becomes public property, if you don’t want any comments and whatnots from seers, then don’t post, simple. I believe it’s the main reason why Facebook regulates the age of its users - R-E-S-P-O-N-S-I-B-I-L-I-T-Y. If I may barrow GMA 7’s tagline “Think before you click” – that sums it up.

Yes, I’m furious, did you feel it? That’s because we are not allowed to Facebook here in the office! How can we be friends, oh dear Timeline, if we’re restricted like that. :(  

Dragon Baby

According to Chinese tradition, Dragon babies - those born in the year of the Dragon - are believed to be blessed with good fortune, luck, power and strength. And so many couples plan to have their children during the lunar year or Dragon year. Couples are also believed to conceive until about May 2 so that their babies will be born in the Year of the Dragon (source).

Hmmmm. No wonder mi esposo was insinuating the other day.hahaha No, we're not planning for another baby yet, mi bebe is way too young to be an ate, he was just playing around. Ironically, I can't help but recall my day-dreaming days, I always wanted a baby born on the year of the Tiger. It is my belief that a Tiger in the house is the very best protection against burglary. Yes, I’m shallow like that. My SIL who knew this dream teased me that my chance of having a tiger baby was diminishing (it was Feb. that time) and I conceded. But lady luck was on my side, on April we found out that I am 8 weeks on the family way. We had mi bebe on that specific Chinese year, it must be will power that worked. Hold-on, mi esposo must be seriously joking alright or his charm will power might worked too.lol

Incidentally, we are actually expecting dragon babies (I am hoping it would be more than 1). Our little pet daughter Mash (a pug) is pregnant! We’re excited grandparents. It will be her first born after 2 unsuccessful studs. Mi esposo as an expert dog breeder is making sure that everything about her pregnancy is well taken care of – from her vitamins down to the registration papers and documentations of her pups. Have I already said we’re excited grandparents? Oh yes, we are excited grandparents.    

Save on Electric Consumption

I was assigned to summarize/comment on the submitted report of this agency regarding the savings generated in view of the implementation of the Administrative Order (AO) No. 103, s. 2004. AO No. 103 is a directive to all NGAs, SUCs, GOCCs, GFIs and OGCEs to adopt austerity measures in the government. The document on my hand specifically reports their accomplishment base on "Section 1: (b) reduction of atleast 10% in the cost xxx - (2) consumption of fuel, water, office supplies, electricity and other utilities xxx" (read the whole content of the said AO here).

In times like this, where price shoots-up uncontrollably, we really need to come-up with ways and means to lessen utility expenses. If this agency can do, the more we must in our households (no AOs needed), especially it’s our hard earned money whose going to pay for it. On that note, I’ve listed few tips to save-up electric consumption, these are all do-able and effective base on my experience.

1) Choose lesser evil (or which appliance is more important at a given time). If you have to turn-on the A/C during your kid's (humid) afternoon nap, then turn-off the fridge (2-3 hours will not harm food stored in the fridge especially if nobody opens its door). Also, set the A/C’s timer at night. (Again, 2-3 hours is enough to cool you down, your electric fan can do the rest). Try sleep pooling (sleeping together in one room will prevent you to turn-on A/Cs in individual rooms).

2) Schedule ironing and laundries (again, apply tip #1 here). In our family of 3, we iron our clothes bi-monthly and laundry’s weekly. Preferably, do these in the morning while you can still use the natural light and most importantly no inviting shows available on the tube (no interesting show means no peaking on the TV while doing your chore).

3) Before you sleep or goes out of the house, remember to unplug all unused appliances and double check if the lights are off (self-explanatory here). It’s also safer that way.

4) During over-humid days, you can always refer to your favorite mall. You can surely save-up on your electric consumption (just be ready with additional shopping expense.lol) 

Quiapo Day

In my opinion, Quiapo must be the busiest district in Manila. I remember my teacher back in HS said, “if you’re lost, go to Quiapo and you will surely find your way home”. Why not, every possible bound routes to that side of the metro. I technically grew-up in Quiapo, my school addresses there, it’s been my home for almost a decade, and it’s very proximate to where I work now. I love the place and proud of it, notwithstanding the bad impression people have on it. Quiapo taught me to be street-smart, it taught me brotherhood and camaraderie, to treat people with respect to be reciprocated. There’s beauty to that place if you only dared look at it.

But my teacher’s statement may also have different meaning. If you analyze it, it may also be read as “lost soul, pray at Quiapo Church and it will lead you back home”. As everybody knows, Quiapo is where the famous Minor Basilica of the Black Nazarene, or simply the Quiapo Church, houses. Devotees visit the Church to offer their burden and pray for intercession. This veneration was said started with Filipinos who identified themselves with the poverty and daily struggles and tribulations of Jesus, which the Black Nazarene represents. Every Friday, the Church offers novena to all devotees, it is also locally known as the Quiapo Day.

Today, Friday, Flo and I went to Quiapo. Well, how do you know? We went shopping. Didn't I tell you Quiapo is a bargain haven? So, we shopped - with our hearts out and 'til the last penny dropped. =)

TGIF! 

Back to the 80's

That was our agency's 2011 Christmas party theme. We were all enjoined to dress-up in our best 80's attire and grove to the 80's music. I must commend the committee who led the preparations, they did their homework very well (read: it’s their era I'm sure. lol). All the aspects of the party were keenly taken care of.  You’ll be time warp once you stepped-out of the grounds. The set-up, props, decorations and even the background music were all in theme. Randy Santiago, our guest performer, represents! The color of the surrounding can never be mistaken to any other era. Colorful balls and rubix cubes served as our dinner table centerpiece. Since, I was not lucky enough to be picked at the raffle, I took home the rubix cube, no hard feeling what so ever. lol          

Last night, as we were all in our PJs and ready to call it a night, mi bebe was still-up for her last hooray. She reached for the rubix cube at our bed's side table and as if she's solving it. Good thing mi esposo was quick to document it. Look at this bright little girl and notice the "do not disturb, I'm concentrating" expression she's trying to convey. lol  



Birthday Girls

You can never have true friends in your work place, they say. That may be true at one point, because co-employees have interest and competing perspectives. But that does not apply to me. I’m one lucky person who has colleagues who can be considered true friends. And they just celebrated their respective birthdays this month.   

Born on the 13th - Flor/Flo (she writes her name that way): She's one of my HBBs, we met since forever. We live in the same village, our families know each other, classmates at Grade 1, separated for  awhile, and then back as classmates/seatmates/ chatmates/cheatmates/twins/triplets (with her real twin)/barkada/tropa from 1st to 4th year high. Separated in college, and reunited again when she recruited me (and mi esposo) to serve the country. As noble as it may sound, that just means officemates/IMmates/shuttlemates/tropa to us. =) I know, with the boyfriend around, this was her best birthday so far.   

cake blowing with the busy boyfriend at the side

Although not my officemate, another HBB - Liza, shares the birthday with Flo. How do you know, they're twins. lol

sharing birthday and the birthday cake with her twin

Born on the 17th - Lui: She's the sweestest. She's also a recruit of Flo, they're college friends. I'm just the luckiest to be working with her. We belong to the same division so we technically work together and we practically share everything here in the office (gossips included). She's my sister and my confidant and my kumare no doubt. With all the blessings she currently have, we still join her and her husband in praying for that one thing that will make them trully happy and complete.   



tiny cake for the lady with a big heart

Happy birthday sisters! And thank you for being around, you make work fun as play. =)

during the agency's 2011 sports festival



with our respective partners in our boss' office sala 



First Time Abay

That's me. In my 31 years of existence I just walked down the aisle two times - one of which was ofcourse my own wedding in 2008 (my first time to march..ever!) and the other was my sister-in-law's, last Dec. 2011. It's not actually my first invite though, I was just so unfortunate to turn down the others for some reason I can not remember anymore. I'm just so glad, Minnie considered us (mi esposo included) as their cord sponsors. She and her husband Emil were already civilly wed for the longest time now, they already have 2 pre-teen kids, their eldest (a girl) is now an in-coming highschool freshman. It is actually their daugther's pre-admission requisite to that catholic-all-girl-school that forced them made them decide to seal their vows in catholic church. 

mi esposo and I as we marched down the aisle

with the wedded and the rest of the secondary sponsors

mi bebe a flower girl wannabe

mi esposo forcing a smile on mi bebe

"the family" as we lead the wine toast 

seems mi bebe is hungry now 

she's hungry alright =)

solid evidence! lol (with her lolo daddy)

day 1 of cold for mi bebe

the family trying to be wacky at the photobooth

as ourselves this time

        

Baby Shower

My highschool best buds (HBB) are scheduled for a get-together this weekend. It's actually for our annual Christmas party, it’s long overdue I know, but it’s still better than never. =) Everybody seems to be pre-occupied last season to cause this delay, but at least it’s happening. Having said that, we the geniuses among the group, felt that we needed to come-up with "something" to cut down contribution expense (genius I told you) make it more meaningful. Since our HBBs’ wife is due on Feb. why not throw her a surprise Baby Shower? In that way, the couple will shoulder the food expense it would be more special for them as it will be their first born. They will be having a baby girl, and they're naming her Courteney Ysabelle Therese, nice right? 

Fidel (the daddy-to-be) initially wanted for a baby boy, he would joke that he would raise his son as a muslim to marry all of our daughters. Talking about karma this early, huh? lol Anyway, regardless of the baby's sex, the gang is still excited for the new addition to our 4A family. Here is the photo of the gorgeous mommy-to-be, Faith.



mommy-to-be Faith at her pre-natal photoshoot

Fidel took that photo above, he is btw a part-time - freelance photographer. He used to take photos as a hobby, he's earning extra for his passion now. Last year, he even ask mi bebe to pose for him to be included in his portfolio. Ofcourse, stage-nanay as I am, I gamely agreed (even if it would cause a little lump for mi bebe here and there). Mi bebe is still learning to sit by herself that time, she's only 7 months. Here are some of Fidel's shots:



 Other HBBs were also there to take mi bebe's photo, but I only choose to post photos from Fidel, since this is a mini-tribute for the parents-to-be. Some behind the scene photos: 



lightman cum clown cum alalay mi esposo with unpreggy (yet) Faith 

daddy-to-be Fidel showing me the raw footages of mi bebe

the HBBs (we're at CME, it's a swimming get-together cum photoshoot)



Escalator Safety



It's a free ride =)

My 14 month-old daughter loves riding an escalator. She acquired this habit when she turned 1. I'm not sure with other babies, but mine just love to go up and down - non-stop! I don't know where she got this habit from, what I remember was there's this one time before her birthday, mi esposo and I let her stand alone while going down just to see how she'll react - we're glad she liked it. Oh, now I know, she got it from us. lol Mi bebe is so smart to remember that experience. Since then, she would point finger at an escalator whenever we'll pass one - which tells us she want to ride. When we allow her, she would go round-n-round (don't worry, we only do that in less crowded escalators). You can not blame us for giving in, she's so cute on it (just look at the photos). She's also so behave. She just stand, smile and make funny faces. Hay, mi bebe! you just melts my heart. =)



taken Dec of 2011

On a relative note, here are some tips on child safety during escalator rides:

• Tie their shoelaces before getting on the escalator

• Stand in the center of the escalator, face forward and hold a parent's hand

• Refrain from sitting or playing on the escalator -- it should not be treated as an amusement park ride

• Do not bring children onto escalators in strollers, walkers, or carts -- take elevator instead

• Step on and off promptly.

Have I mentioned mi bebe loves walking? But she still walks with support though, so everytime she walks, she tags along someone with her. I hope she gets the courage to walk on her own the soonest!

Points to Ponder

I received this email I belive it's worthy to share:

"A mouse looked through the crack in the wall to see the farmer and his wife open a package. "What food might this contain?", the mouse wondered. He was devastated to discover it was a mousetrap. Retreating to the farmyard, the mouse proclaimed the warning. 

There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a mousetrap in the house!" The chicken clucked and scratched, raised her head and said, "Mr. Mouse, I can tell this is a grave concern to you, but it is of no consequence to me. I cannot be bothered by it." 

The mouse turned to the pig and told him, "There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a mousetrap in the house!" The pig sympathized, but said, "I am so very sorry, Mr. Mouse, but there is nothing I can do about it but pray. Be assured you are in my prayers." 

The mouse turned to the cow and said "There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a mousetrap in the house!" The cow said, "Wow, Mr. Mouse. I'm sorry for you, but it's no skin off my nose." 

So, the mouse returned to the house, head down and dejected, to face the farmer's mousetrap alone. That very night a sound was heard throughout the house -- like the sound of a mousetrap catching its prey. The farmer's wife rushed to see what was caught. In the darkness, she did not see it was a venomous snake whose tail the trap had caught. The snake bit the farmer's wife. The farmer rushed her to the hospital and she returned home with a fever. 

Everyone knows you treat a fever with fresh chicken soup, so the farmer took his hatchet to the farmyard for the soup's main ingredient. But his wife's sickness continued, so friends and neighbors came to sit with her around the clock. To feed them, the farmer butchered the pig.

The farmer's wife did not get well; she died. So many people came for her funeral, the farmer had the cow slaughtered to provide enough meat for all of them. The mouse looked upon it all from his crack in the wall with great sadness. 

So, the next time you hear someone is facing a problem and think it doesn't concern you, remember -- when one of us is threatened, we are all at risk".

Both situations are hard to be in. But in my opinion, being in the situation like that of the farm friends are more difficult because you'll never know when is the best time to get involved. I am a human exaust fan, friends usually come to me to share burden and seek advice, I think I give practical and reasonable pieces (to the best of my ability), but it's still up to them to take it. Most listen, some don't. As they say, it's their life. For me, as long as we are ready with whole heart to listen and offer something to help, they'll get by.

Encourage everyone to pray, it really works. =) 

On Google Searchability...

After my first post (minutes ago.lol) I was so excited to search my, ehem, "blog URL" over the google (yes, I'm vain like that), but to my dismay, it didn't show up. So, I googled why. Oh, what a crazy world, I create over google, I search what I created over google, I can not believe that google can not give me what I searched for, so I asked google, I found the answer in google, and I trusted it. Hay google, you make the world go round... hahaha Anyway, as I was saying, yes, it says that "It can take up to four weeks." Yay! Four weeks, that's 1 month.. I cannot take this! It's like you have a christmas gift, but you cannot open just yet because it was given to you on January 1 and you have to wait for another 12 months 'till it's Christmas again to open it. Stupid!hahaha

This one's interesting, according also to my google quiry, a dead url may still be listed in Google search but "... it will eventually fade as Google index robots find nothing there". Cool! Robots to clean the cyber mess, bet it's so tired now. 

Oh, well, what else can I do but wait (to see myself in the cyber mirror).  

update: i am searchable now (after more or less 24hrs) hihi

I am a blogger now!

Yes, it's me and i am starting on a thing that is not so familiar with me. Well, if ever there's a lost soul, who by fate, found my blog, let me tell you something not so secret about me. I'm lazy! So making a journal is so different, so not me. I once attempted to blog during the hay days of friendster, but it just died after 5 posts (I think). But I must say that I like reading blogs, it's part of my office routine (you know what I mean.lol). Many of which I just stambled while googling and there are few I check on a regular basis. Maybe those few inspired me to create one. 

Earlier, over lunch, I told mi esposo about this, he just laugh it off (he knew me that well, I guess). But, let me tell you a little secret.. well my real inspiration is the earnings! bwahahaha I want to make money online. I know, (because I googled it) earnings will not be that fast and easy, it will take a lot of hardworks and dedication. It will not even make me a millionaire, but hey, I'm not in a hurry. :) For now, I will try to enjoy the stuff, educate myself in order for me to educate my readers (as if there is), and have fun!

Expect my post to be anything under the sun. It can be anything about my daily existence and anything that comes inside my brain and the things I can bravely share with everyone over the WWW. ;-)